The Truth About Being Single

Meet Lakeshia Rivers Ekeigwe

Lakeshia Rivers Ekeigwe is happily married to her husband of 5 years and resides in Southern California. She likes to say she has always been a talker. Her mother said she started talking at 7 months of age and never stopped. Lakeshia loves language and the beauty of words. She is an avid reader and along with talking and reading, loves to write. As a young girl, Lakeshia wrote stories and poetry for her elementary school newspaper. Though a speaker and a writer all her life, she fell into a career in the legal field, and remained there for 20 years. Her career has ranged from assisting attorneys in various fields of law; teaching college Legal Office Procedures and Legal Assisting courses; to facilitation and mediation for the Dispute Resolution Program of the Office of the City Attorney for the City of Los Angeles.

While on this career path, and having had various life experiences that framed and shaped her choices, Lakeshia realized she had a lot to say and that she could share some of what she learned along the way. She believed her lessons learned could genuinely help others. Lakeshia, Neva and several friends decided to form an organization designed to train, mentor, guide and coach women and girls though a series of seminars and workshops. The organization’s largest client was the Housing Authority for City of Los Angeles. They also worked with programs such as the Maxine Waters Employment Preparation Center and similar organizations. Over the years, the joy of working with women and girls and witnessing first-hand the life changing experiences they had when being exposed to transformative life strategies was inspiring. It fuels her passion and increases her joy.

That work led to Lakeshia and Neva writing The Truth About Being Single. At the time, Lakeshia and Neva were both single. It was amazing to them the things single women were told, said, did and believed. They both personally knew many women who were single but wanted to be married who were exhibiting behaviors consistent with those who had low or no self-esteem and were not self-aware. Consequently, just as they did for the women and girls they trained, mentored, guided and coached through their organization, they decided to apply the same dedication and passion to the issues single women face as well as to be a voice of truth for single women. A liberating voice to say, it is ok and normal that being single does not feel good when you would rather be married; a teaching voice to say go and make the best of who you are by broadening your horizons and getting to know yourself; and an encouraging voice to tell you to never give up on love. So, Lakeshia and Neva wrote this book and designed workshops, seminars and webinars that are conducted online and around the country to voice The Truth About Being Single.

Meet Neva Lockhart

Neva Lockhart resides in sunny Southern California where she has lived most of her life, except for a short stay in Texas. She is still enjoying her single life. However, she is a true believer in love and marriage. She also believes everyone should be true to themselves. Neva's belief is this: Love comes to those who want it.

Neva's mother told her she was always a talker and loved to entertain. Her teachers suggested she look into a career in Law. She seriously considered Law as a profession until she discovered that her love for people goes far beyond defending or prosecuting them. She wanted to talk and to listen. Neva wanted to help people and to gain their trust by having one on one heartfelt discussions with them. She wanted to share as well. Neva also loved business strategic management, the 'ins and outs' of making a business succeed. She found the profession that would allow her to do just that and became a Salon Owner and Stylist. Neva was also a co-founder of an organization which trained, mentored, guided and coached women and girls though a series of seminars and workshops. For 30 years now, she has been a successful businesswoman, problem solver, mentor, confidante, counselor, therapist and coach.

Through all of this, Neva has learned a lot and gained valuable life experiences. As taught by her "no nonsense" mother, Neva firmly believes one can learn and apply life lessons from the experiences of others and using basic common sense. When you do so, there is really not much you cannot accomplish, including making good choices for yourself in all aspects of your life. Neva stresses the value of learning from the experiences of others.

Neva was intrigued by the concern single women had about being single and wanting to be married and how dismissive and degrading modern society seems to react to this very natural desire. She knew it was time to do something. The book and workshops have provided a forum which has opened the way for many conversations and deep discussion among women and men, married and single. Knowing the many lies we had been told, Neva felt she just had to tell the truth about at least one aspect of being single. Lakeshia and Neva put their thoughts to pen and paper and came up with The Truth About Being Single.

The authors believe you will find The Truth About Being Single just makes sense.