The Truth About Being Single

When we set out to write The Truth About Being Single, we had in mind a very specific audience and a very specific message. We wanted our book to be a clear and concise, common sense guide for single women around the age of 30. We wanted to address the unkind, negative, thoughtless messages directed to single women, and acknowledge the fact that wanting a mate is perfectly normal. We also wanted to encourage our readers to go about finding their Mr. Right, which ostensibly requires them to get to know themselves first. We further encouraged our readers to broaden their horizons; set personal standards for themselves, and to be happy while single BEFORE they enter a marriage or relationship.

In short, we wanted to give voice to the complex issues facing single women while simultaneously introducing them to simple tools and techniques designed to help them experience greater self-awareness and higher self-esteem.

We were thrilled to discover that women and surprisingly men in all situations - single, married, divorced or in relationships and ranging in age from 16 to 60 plus - all found information in our book that was enlightening and relevant.

We discovered an interesting fact. Everyone has an idea, opinion, or thought about The Truth About Being Single.

WHAT IS YOUR TRUTH ABOUT BEING SINGLE?

Why We Wrote The Book

Women are being told to accept lies. The lie that you are supposed to love being single. The lie that if you do not love being single, you do not love yourself. We wrote the book to say: It is okay that you would rather be married than single. It is okay that being single is not how you thought your life would be. It is okay that you do not want to have to do it all, all alone, all the time. It is okay to feel that you would be happier in a loving, nurturing marriage. In fact, The Truth About Being Single is in our biology. The 'Truth' is all around us. Just turn on your television - "Millionaire Matchmaker," "The Bachelor" and "The Bachelorette," all prove The Truth About Being Single. Generally speaking, people do not want to be.

One of the many reasons we decided to write The Truth About Being Single was hearing some things that really annoyed us. One in particular occurred on a talk show with a 37 year old guest, Karen. Karen is attractive, physically fit, has a great job and had several interests but was not happy about being single. Despite having a very full life, she was lonely, and desired to share her life with someone who would love and cherish her. She was not sitting around whining about her situation but she was clearly and simply stating she wished her life was different.

What was shocking to us was it appeared that the host and her special guest, a mysterious psychological guru type, told Karen she was feeling lonely because she had not opened herself up to what "the universe" had in store for her. Adding insult to injury, he further told her that insisting on the idea of wanting to be married was a "limitation of her focus" and she should let the "universe" guide her. Then the host and the guru jointly suggested she should let go of her "ideas" of what would make her happy, and open herself up to "the universe." Well, we were as confused as Karen.

What we found most unfortunate was that Karen's feelings were not in any way validated. She was made to appear foolish for stating she felt her life would be happier in a happy, loving marriage. We thought that was very wrong and knew we had to do something about it.