“I have been looking for this book and message for over 10 years. Thank you for writing and stating what so many of us have felt for so long… ladies, it is okay to want to be in a relationship!”
Beth Millman, Los Angeles, CA
“I just spent a relaxing, quiet morning reading the beautiful book
The Truth About Being Single. It was so honest, with an empathic and unique perspective. I couldn’t put it down, loved it!”
Sybil Henry, The Style Concierge
“Your book really hit the nail on the head. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. It was simple, honest and thoughtful. I saw myself in its pages.”
Serena S., Redondo Beach, CA
“What a great little gem of a book! I’ve never come across anything like it. The loving insight, encouragement, and powerful reassurance come across as warm and witty as an afternoon spent talking with your best friend over a cup of coffee.”
Kerri M., Newport Beach, CA
“AMEN SISTER!!! What an appropriately titled book. It’s the ‘Truth,’ plain and simple. I laughed and even cried at one point as I saw myself, and those around me, in the pages of the book. This book validates what many of us singles feel and gives hope for the future. There is nothing wrong with us because we are single and want to be married. Being a single 30-something with a successful career, I find myself constantly defending and justifying my ‘singleness’ to all my married friends, not to mention spending a small fortune on all the wedding showers, baby showers, etc., all the while wondering if and when it will be my turn. Thank you, Lakeshia and Neva, for putting into words what so many of us feel and for giving us a voice!”
Jacquelyn C., Orange County, CA
“I laughed. I cried. I loved this book! It packs a POWERFUL punch!”
Lori S., San Pedro, CA
“While sitting on my bed, I began to read the book, and continued from beginning to end. I felt the book touched on the sore subject of singleness that single women – especially those who have been single well into their 30s, 40s and beyond can relate to – the social stigmatism and pressure that it must be our fault that we are single and all the tired out messages we receive from well-meaning friends that instead of being up building only tear down… I saw my own thoughts and feelings on the book in my hands. I saw some of my single friends and their struggles, and in the end I felt justified for wanting something so natural. You can’t believe how well the timing of this gift was for me!”
Natalie D., Brooklyn, NY
“Reading the book was like reading common sense that was not common. This book is a self-esteem booster and doesn’t make you feel bad for wanting to be in a relationship to reach the climax of true happiness. Thanks for putting into words what has been on all our minds. It was great that the book was short and to the point. We are so busy these days and it was an easy read. I would recommend this book to everyone who wants great advice that is to the point and very helpful.”
Holly M., Torrance, CA
“In reading your book, what you say is right. I’ve only recently allowed myself to think in these terms. For some reason, we women of today are trained to feel guilty if we want to be married or have a committed relationship. I lived for many years dating. I didn’t want a relationship, but I felt a bit empty. I kept busy, attended college, worked, etc. Then I DECIDED to get married, but to the wrong man. It is a funny twist of fate that I am with someone now with whom I would actually like to be married… Anyway, what a good read!”
Sandra R., Orange County, CA
“For me, The Truth About Being Single has been a process. The process started with sitting down (frighteningly by myself) and listening to my own introspective thoughts as the book suggested. I learned that happiness begins with finding out what love means to me and not anyone else. The Truth About Being Single has been an amazing guide for me, reminding me to see myself through my own eyes.”
Wei Z., Los Angeles, CA
OFFICIAL REVIEWS
“A book from new authors Lakeshia Rivers Ekeigwe and Neva Lockhart, called
The Truth About Being Single. Very well presented and thought-provoking ideas that will have your group talking long after the meeting is over. It speaks to women, single or married. These women [authors] examine the outdated truth with great insight and give clarity to the real truth.”
Frances Moore, DA READERS BOOK CLUB, Los Angeles, CA
Lakeshia and Neva’s perspective from behind the signing table:
The ladies of the book club range in age from 50 to 70+. Some were married and some single. The single women comprised divorcees, widows and one confirmed bachelorette (or so she thought, but we will discuss her later). We presented our book and led a group discussion by explaining why we wrote The Truth About Being Single and our belief that the ‘Truth’ is in our biology. Our explanation generated quite a bit of dialogue. The ladies expressed to us their appreciation for our message, which affirms the fact that it is completely normal to want to be married, encourages women to refuse to settle for ‘Mr. Right Now,’ and to set their own personal standards, among other things. Many of the book club members told us they wish they had been so admonished in their younger years. We also shared our firm belief that one should never give up on love. Never.
Now, about our confirmed bachelorette, (we write about some of those in our book, too). She was adamant (as we find they usually are) that she did not want to get married. She asserted she was very happy the way she is, telling us that “men are too much trouble” and that they would upset her “routine and balance.” However, when we asked her about qualities she would look for in a prospective mate, she came up with quite a few (as all such “single-life lovers” we’ve spoken with do). What this tells us is that these confirmed bachelorettes have an ideal man, but they lack the belief that they will find him. They convince themselves that they do not ever want to be married when in actuality they do not want to be married to Mr. Wrong. By the end of the signing, our truly confirmed bachelorette purchased not one but three books and told us if we ever receive a “flashing neon wedding invitation” to know it was from her!!!
