The Truth About Being Single

"DA READERS BOOK CLUB," Los Angeles, CA

News from Da Readers Book Club meeting April 11, 2009.

"A book from new authors Lakeshia Rivers Ekeigwe and Neva Lockhart, called The Truth About Being Single. Very well presented and thought provoking ideas that will have your group talking long after the meeting is over. It speaks to women, single or married. These women examine the out dated truth with great insight and give clarity to the real truth."

Frances Moore,

Da Readers Book Club

We were invited to present our book to "Da Readers Book Club" in a lovely home in one of Los Angeles' famed historic Districts. What an honor it was to be a part of their group. The ladies of the book club range in age from 50 to 70+. Some were married and some single. The single women comprised divorcees, widows and one confirmed bachelorette (or so she thought, but we will discuss her later). We presented our book and led a group discussion by explaining why we wrote The Truth About Being Single and our belief that said 'Truth' is in our biology. Our explanation generated quite a bit of dialogue. The ladies expressed to us their appreciation for our message which affirms the fact that it is completely normal to want to be married; encourages women to refuse to settle for 'Mr. Right Now;' and to set their own personal standards among other things. Many told us they wish they had been so admonished in their younger years. We also shared our firm belief that one should never give up on love. Never.

Now, about our confirmed bachelorette, (we write about some of those in our book too). She was adamant, (as we find they usually are), that she did not want to get married. She asserted she was very happy the way she is, "men are too much trouble" and would upset her "routine and balance." However, when we asked her about qualities she would look for in a prospective mate, she came up with quite a few (as they all do). What that tells us is that these confirmed bachelorettes have an ideal man, they just lack the belief that they will find him. So they convince themselves that they do not ever want to be married when in actuality, they do not want to be married to Mr. Wrong. By the end of the signing, our truly confirmed bachelorette purchased not one, but three books and told us if we ever received a "flashing neon wedding invitation," to know it was from her!!!

Here is what our seminar participants are saying

"Thank you so very much for your time, energy, insight, joy . . . I had such a wonderful evening. I learned more about myself than I thought I would. I learned that I can be a much better wife than the one that I've been . . . Thank you for that."

"I had a great time last night, wonderful food, great company and loads of new information. I love your thought process. Too bad that I had not heard what you had to say when I was much younger, I might have made a lot less mistakes in my love life. I'll be reading your book and most likely implementing some changes. Thank you. Please keep me on your distribution list for future seminars."

"I thoroughly enjoyed the TTABS seminar and getting to know you and Neva a little better. Thank you so much for all of the information. You did a great job of presenting!!"

"I was moved emotionally and mentally left with enlightenment beyond what I expected. Look forward to next time."

"I feel more self-aware. Great info! All my girlfriends should hear and put these standards in place."

"Your advice to me was so impactful. Your insights were a gift to me."

Rave Reviews!!!

What Readers Are Saying About Our Book

“Your book really hit the nail on the head. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. It was simple, honest and thoughtful. I saw myself in its pages.”

Serena

Redondo Beach, CA

AMEN SISTER!!! What an appropriately titled book. It’s the “Truth” plain and simple. I laughed and even cried at one point as I saw myself, and those around me, in the pages of the book. This book validates what many of us singles feel and gives hope for the future. There is nothing wrong with us because we are single and want to be married. Being a single 30-something with a successful career, I find myself constantly defending and justifying my “singleness” to all my married friends, not to mention spending a small fortune on all the wedding showers, baby showers…etc., all the while wondering if and when it will be my turn. Thank you Lakeshia and Neva for putting into words what so many of us feel and giving us a voice!"

Jacquelyn

Orange County, CA

“I laughed - I cried. I loved this book! It is small but packs a POWERFUL punch!”

Lori

San Pedro, CA

“While sitting on my bed, I began to read the book, and continued from beginning to end. I felt the book touched on the sore subject of singleness that single women – especially those who have been single well into their 30's, 40's and beyond can relate to - the social stigmatism and pressure that it must be our fault that we are single and all the tired out messages we receive from well-meaning friends that instead of being upbuilding only tear down . . . I saw my own thoughts and feelings on the book in my hands. I saw some of my single friends and their struggles, and in the end I felt justified for wanting something so natural. You can't believe how well the timing of this gift was for me!”

Natalie

Brooklyn, NY

“Reading the book was like reading common sense that was not common. This book is a self-esteem booster and doesn't make you feel bad for wanting to be in a relationship to reach the climax of true happiness. Thanks for putting into words what has been on all our minds. It was great that the book was short and to the point. We are so busy these days and it was an easy read. I would recommend this book to everyone who wants great advice that is to the point and very helpful.”

Holly

Torrance, CA